But the harsh reality hit me that he has not texted or asked me for almost a week. It has nothing to do with you, but it has everything to do with them. In his city in a couple Still, talking without listening is never a good thing. If you decide to give him another chance, Id make this very clear to him. Working two jobs handling Christmas sales. Ughhh. If you do, then it is possible that I may know the guy you referred to in your comment!!! Walk away from him and be the one whos playing the ignoring game. However, if you have been in this situation, you know how much it hurts when you know someone is deliberately laying games with your feelings! Almost everyone on this website understands that feeling. I go over everything that we said to each other over the last 15 months, there doesnt seem to be any reason to pretend your in love or lie, he could have left anytime if he didnt have those feelings, I gave him the opportunity when things got hard because of the time difference, but he insisted that we were worth the extra effort needed, and I thought that too. He stopped answering my calls, I checked on his Facebook and he was actually having fun. You see, I am very sapiosexual and love to have a banter with like minds and since we both worked in similar demanding professional fields, I felt like he was the proverbial One. But then .. We met for lunch and I told him that I understood, that when I had been divorced for 11 months I was in a relationship that I shouldnt have been in and I truly just understood how he felt. He was giving me all the strong signals before last Thursday. Had an argument a week before Christmas and I said I was done. So glad I found this site today! I never got a text saying any of that. A guy can disappear from your life if he realizes that hes still not ready for a relationship. Its much easier to ghost her. To which he relied he will give me a shout later but that was last Tuesday and he hasnt called or texted. Im ok I think. I just freeze up. Sorry, this is long but I have never ever had a guy pull a Houndini on me. The last guy I just let it go I didnt like him all that much anyway. Every other date went swimmingly up until the 6th date we decided to meet up to watch a hockey game at a bar. He never replied. Any advice on how to handle this? I then was being goofy one night and had sent him a text thinking everything is grand and his response was who is this? Now here is my question Ladies and Gentlemen why when everything seemed to be fine and normal would he delete my number? however, he sometimes come back again wondering why I didnt contact him. Save the sweet talk for when you are interested in a woman, youll be doing your self and a lot of women a favor. 1) Usually not. I dont get it! When a guy disappears for days, maybe he involved with something and can't tell you right away or he just busy with all of his stuff. He made me feel so alive again. Why would you give money to someone you dont know? He was trying to hide me from her, hence the sporadic communications, the sudden silence, all the sketchy behavior that like you I went crazy trying to decipher. And we didnt talk at all for the 6th month until the last week where I contacted him. You dont have to give it up though! Or maybe her timing is off and hes pre-occupied for a full exchange. There was a hotel opposite the parking station and he suggested we spend the night together. Hes become really cold towards me and its gotten to the point where I cannot take it anymore because its bought back my major depression again. Maybe we should bring back the hard times. 15 He Only Texts Late At Night. .. After hospital stay and he would not text back , call or see me. I just cant understand how someone can go from being sooo close and attached to you to just no contact and so dry. Comfortable asking him. Relationships unfold organically, at the right time, and not after a series of pointless dates with strangers. We talked everyday, he promised to make it work. He has not been in a relationship where he said he felt like he wanted to marry the person except for one girl who he was friends Anyways! You will understand his true interest level. I would often think about him and wish him happy birthday every year but one he failed to receive and the second time we started texting again for about a week. Omf, Ive never been this ridiculous or hung over a rack for a guy! He is even more beuatiful then I rememberd and we really clicked again and he laughed at my jokes and gave me twice like this really nice hug . Really dont take it personally, if things between you dont improve. :). I agree. I think Im going to give time a chance, letting him miss me and see if he come back but I would like to hear everyone elses opinions! You wonder why would someone deliberately send mixed signals . If more men were called on this kind of behavior, theyd stop doing it. He chose to disappear because he might have found it awkward to tell you that he has found someone whom he feels a stronger connection with. Reading this message will probably make him reply to you. I took Ambien one night and in my hypnotic sleep wrote him texts at 3 a.m asked what happened. Oh dear I may need some moral support. This is why guys disappear. I didnt know what to do. Meet a guy on a dating website. We used to be really close friends and when we tried something more (HE startes it) he dissappears. No idea. really cracked me up. Thank you so much for this article! Woth other people, friends, etc too. I went to work one day, came home and everything was gone, he had moved out I found him at a friends house we started to work things through, he said we were back together and after he got home from his work trip he would move back in. Then he said hed like to see me later that evening. Society, as a whole, has degenerated into a morass of non-judgmental, liberal acceptance of bad behavior and making excuses for those who engage in it. Finally. He canceled his membership and my trial expired, so we exchanged numbers and planned to meet up. I wanted to know if I was worth it to him so I decided to give him a few days to figure out What he wanted. And I can see his last seen so I know hes been active. I let my friends talk me out of confronting him much sooner than I did. He doest call me anymore, he left me, and disappear my boyfriend did not say he knows that this would drive me nuts! But disappearing without an explanation when you click with someone is really hard. And I wont. We then started seeing each other and hit it off from the get go!! Guys have a sixth sense concerning what they can get away with, and you have a past history of guys who apparently think they can take you or leave youand youll stick around waiting for them to figure it out. Yada yada. On December he invited me to a party and then he asked me out, as much as i was scared to start a relationship knowing he would go away soon i still said yes. Of course, and I am sure I will. I called him on past Wednesday and he sounded sick but dont understand the distant. I have been dating this guy for more than 2 months, but he has not asked me to be his gf or to be exclusive yet. Im gonna feel better in no time, I hope. Im not going to contact him Im just going to wait and see. I know that is was not a normal relationship and we would not have been able to think about being together for a few years, as we were both still rearing children, and this is for the best in the long run, but the hurt I feel is overwhelming. (He lives a couple of hours away and works nights and weekends.) His excuses for always not calling me, hes always working. Things moved forward at reasonable pace over the holidays and accelerated when i stopped seeing another guy I was dating. I now come with a warning label if you want to date me. He invites me after work to see him at his place for a bit. I have never judged him for anything, I just enjoyed being with him and I love him. In one Eric was talking about his sister. Men owe women nothing. Then he heard I was seeing another guy, so now he says hes seeing another woman so we cant be anymore. The whole thing is so stupid. He honestly did everything for me and now he didnt even care to say happy birthday to me. My friends went back to him and he gave them his number to give me.. And do this in a genuine but direct manner. He said his tummy was upset and probably was due to the combination of drinks but later I noticed that he had a failure to perform. Im too old to let this take over my life (34), but it still has me feeling so deflated and sad and teary. He will be at your doorstep within a few minutes. MORE: On Loving Yourself and Becoming More Confident. And therein lies the problem fairytale stories written by men and read to us by Daddy. So it actually took me by surprise that after just 18 hours ago he was making plans with me of all the things that we will do when together again. I still do, everytime I remember him, even after nearly a year. and i said tto him multiple times ok youve lost interest which he denied. He wanted to maintain one on you. And yeah, thats disappointing but its not the be all, end all. Be kind always. I just learnt that it is not Im not good enough or He doesnt like me or We are not at good for each other or Its wrong for me to fall for someone who is beyond reach, its just that He is not emotionally available for the moment. She was funny, attractive, fit, and wore glasses (i love glasses!) But I feel as if I am not capable, on many grounds, to make her happy! Because I just need some explanations about what happened, I just need him to clarify if we were okay or not. Why wasnt I good enough? I educated my self enough to let go. This text message will show him that you have your boundaries and youre not willing to cross them because of him. I even asked him several times and told him that tif there was someone else that he was into. While dating (but not sleeping with) these men. I found plenty of good gay men, who have been my rock. And he still ghosted. Nor will I hang around with a man who is not reciprocating my attention and affection. In his city instead but I will surprise him too and not give the actual date and he laughed and aid dont worry Ill be mentally prepared and make reservations. If women went for men in their league this wont happen. When I got home I called and got his VM. In the end, I know its gonna be hard at first. It would be nice to have an explanation, but I doubt Ill get one. We had been dating for 2 months. Oh god, maybe youre right and he just wants sex O_____O (did you read we were close friends since we met 5 years ago? Honestly my last situation i met a guy and were dating for like 4 months. Even people at my work thought that he was into me as well and that it was pretty obvious. A guy did this to mewhy string me along? if he stay away, it his loss. I havent seen him or spoke to him in a month now but it help me put closure to the whole thing. At least I thought I did but I am tiring of his games. The next date was amazing to say the least. Initially I felt he cant just forget how supportive I have been over a petty thing and accept his mistake, apologise (in fact I tried to mend things although it was his fault) I thought our bond was stronger than that. There are SO many other men out there that would love to be with you. As he was driving me home he held my hand and then we kissed good night. a few months later, he broke up with the girl he had started dating and I was recovering from a minor heartbrake, when guess what ? good education, professionals). It could be that shes used to being around passive, shy guys who were good listeners. I was really disappointed for awhile because I really liked him. The following day another half ass text them bam- back to ignoring me all over. Things were going well, We planned on getting together on the weekend. I am a single mother of two teen age boys, and recently started working for my own business. It was a mutual connection and feeling then it just suddenly vanished on his end apparently. Listen to your friends and move on. Its like the last 15 months have been wiped away. Now Im waiting to see if Im actually pregnant. Hey, I just realized that I havent heard back from you in a while and Im a bit confused. He initiated the texting and phone calls. No expectations. And I guess that I dont love you anymore He might need therapyBut it is not your responsibility to babysit him through itLet him go and sort himself out..You have tolerated it for too long, and you deserve so much better..If/when he sorts himself out and decides to stop being a big, grumpy baby, he will come back and pursue you. And he has been with models and girls who have had Timmy tuck and stuff like that. Let him go and put your energy into someone that can treat you well. He says yeah he needs to get back to dinner. When a guy suddenly disappears from your life, you want to figure out what to text him when he disappears. Third date comes along we go out and once again have a good time and we dont realize we were up so late talking. Ashley, its obvious you came on here to vent and you only wanted to hear what you wanted to hear. We still texted but minimally and he came to pick me up midday for food and a little excursion. I said it was ok. I like this young lady and I will be distraught if she meets someone else! Talked every day, had tons of chemistry but then my ex found out, he called him and kind of intimidated him. One man I was super interested in . She lives in another state, by the way. Text him only once after he disappears. It does suck and it will for a while but like this post said keep busy and time will heal. How could he do this? The only time i find i do this is when Im not in love with the man. He isnt a social person so I know hes not out at night and I know hes home most weekends. Then, tear it up or burn it. Holly, i know this was almost a year ago, but this EXACT same thing just happened to me. his lost anyweiz.. (-_-) thanks for this post.. this what I really need to forget him..its been a month since our last date but until now I honestly cant stop thinking about him.. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. However, how much a dent depends on how much you let it! I was very surpriced and a bit confused. I did call him once and he did call me back and was very nice and talkative. In most cases, a guy is not going to notice you stop texting him. Hes done this a couple time. He said its not what I think. We spoke or texted every single day, normally many times throughout the day. good times at a nice restaurant shes still talking quite a bit and im starting to notice having to manufacture interest in the conversation sometimes since i dont really get a turn to talk. A guy can lose interest for any number of reasons and oftentimes it has more to do with him than with you. Our paths then crossed a few weeks later, he was polite but that was it. What? As they say, if it is meant to be then it will be. In person, conversation is normal and usually light. These are about the only good signs he has giving me along with being flirty but more recently when talking he takes forever to reply and just doesnt finish the conversation. Email: hello@hayleyquinn.com. But I brushed it off maybe hes busy or something. We are better off giving up on them and not ourselves by chasing after them or pinning over them. Sure enough the next morning I got a text that said what his boss said and that his focus wasnt on work but then he went on to say that I was amazing and I didnt do anything wrong and our time together has been great but too time consuming. Thats what Women have reduced themselves to. It comes from a good place but it appears you have learned a valuable lesson and thats to back off a bit and let a man chase you. If hes gone, he wasnt worth your time anyway. I deactivated my own Facebook account for a while. I dont generally ask for advice about my relationships ( this isnt a relationship) since I am super reserved, but Ive found this website helpful and needless to say I am CONFUSED. we still text each other once a week. If he still doesnt answer then youve got to let it go. My daughter thinks hes gay. Give him another chance if he seems sorry. but I was feeling so emotionally exhausted, and tired I decided to call him out on it..humorously of course since confrontation is not my strongest point. He claimed to not understand i himself, he fekt numb, and disappeared for a day more or less. Apparently your ex-fiancee conditioned you to think this is acceptable behavior in a loving relationship. I met a guy online. Sorry for such a long post! But he is not. I replied hours later and he didnt reply back! big halloween party at my friends place after dinner holding conversation becoming a little more difficult. I said just: I would love to:) Zee, if he did go back to his ex, dont take it personally. I seem to always get the disappearing act, so whatever it is that Im doing or not doing, I dont know. I love you Sabrina! And Ali what if youre a girl who has dated down (I say this because I go for personality and chemistry more than looks) and they still disappear? I do not want to play games anymore and only put in as much effort as him and wait until he contacts me but I feel as if this is the only way. This so hit close to home!! he found my profile on professional network and added me. But it sounds like he got everything he needed from you and got bored and is finding another girl to talk to. He barely looked me in the eyes while talking, kept looking me up and down inspecting everything. He also let slip that when he ignores me he knows that all I will be thinking about is him all day every day. Thus, instead of choosing to end things on a good note and maturely, he disappeared because it was the easy way out. Id be getting along with her really well but something would trigger my self doubt so out of the blue almost as a test i guess, I would just disappear on her or ghost her and not reply to her txts or calls, etc. Just had this happen to me, and Im so confused! Oh, Lordy. It is true that we have been conditioned into a non-reality world of romance, but emotions are there for a reason. Cause you want attention. Okay with it. But no I wanted a clean break and went on with my life. The first time he and hooked up he dropped off the face of the earth. But, it is a bit harder for me because he gave me a gift that keeps on giving. And usually what I do is pull back and give them a dose of their own medicine. I wouldve never gone along with that had I not thought this dude was something else. He was investing a lot of time in getting to know me and although, he knew, my life style was a I just say its all a cop out. In the beginning we specifically agreed that if we want out to just say it no questions asked. Although I insisted our conversations were casual and playful and nothing serious cas we had talked about things over the phone . I stopped caring years ago as Ive encountered too many disappointments with getting emotionally used. However, I know Every girl remembers her first but dont feel bad.. Casual dating (or sex) and just enjoying the other person for a moment with no intention of ever settling down is a waste of time. I am exercising more and getting fresh air, therefore am losing weight and ready to take on the world again. They dont keep on deliberately meeting other people to make sure they have shopped around for the best deal. And it feels so much better. Ashley no matter how you slice it, not responding to you for an entire week was not cool on his part. You felt it in your gut, called him out on it and he flaked some more. In reality they are emotional vampires. I learnt that pretty fast and stopped texting and let him do the chasing! Kim Like, you could text me and say it directly, I wouldnt mind. Its painful to be in that situation but what youve got here screams pre-existing condition lol, as in he probably has an ex somewhere that came back into the picture. Six months in and off/on and breaking up a lot does not sound healthy/loving. We were close friends until we kissed at a party for the first time 2years ago and I really freaked out. Funny you should say that, because I am doing sociology, and often think how this would make for great research! I still have not contacted him, but I am on the verge. He last talked to me on March 9th. But I cant help feeling If he wanted to be with me, he would be right? So if he throws you a What are you up to this weekend? instead of answering you can toss the response right back to him and say, Why, whats up?. Days? If it does, then he really is playing games. With this it makes me feel its not even worth trying to date. 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